|Posted on April 25, 2016 at 2:30 PM|
So I got some rest last night and my blood and stopped boiling. On top of that, I woke up to a wall of supportive comments. I want to thank everyone for their support. You all are amazing and admittedly, the outpouring of support has allowed me to approach this situation more rationally. I also want to ask my supporters to refrain from harassing those who harassed me. By doing what they do, we are no better than them. So please refrain from harassing them as that just creates an endless cycle of cyber bullying.
So after much thought, I won’t be going away. Yes, I let some really lousy people get the best of me last night and I admit, I suffered a bruised ego from it all. But as many of you stated, if I walk away, they win. And who wants that!? Also, why the hell should I let them keep me from what I love doing? Making content for you all is what brings me joy in life and I won’t allow a group of nobodies with no ambitions in life other than harassing and bullying people to steal that away from me. Having said that, I do have some changes that I will be making to my channel in the future.
I have been dealing with trolls for over a decade now and I can handle it. But my wife never asked for this. She never asked to be in the spotlight or crosshairs of cyber bullies. You can argue that she knew what she was getting into when she dated/married me, but in no way should that subject her to the barrage of insults I get daily. Seeing her distraught and upset last night over comments being directed at her threw me into a literally fit of rage. And admittedly, I failed to keep a level head and handled the situation poorly. But just imagine seeing someone you loved in emotional pain over the comments made by some very sad individuals. So from this point forward, my wife will no longer be a part of my content. I refuse to let her be a subject for ridicule and as such, she won’t be moderating the chat in my live streams or appearing in my content any longer. This also means the "A Geek And His Wife Podcast" is cancelled, effective immediately.
I also wanna say I am not perfect. I am human and therefore, I make mistakes. I will admit that the actions of these bullies weren't completely unprovoked, but that doesn't justify their actions. They were still wrong in their attack and very wrong to drag my wife into it. But I have no problem admitting when I've screwed up. I did make a mistake and for that I apologize. Many of you know I take great pride in my work and in the past when I felt that someone has stolen my work, I've used my legal right to protect my content. No one should be able to steal someone elses work. No one. And while I did consult a copyright expert and they did confirm that the video in question did indeed violate my copyrighted material, nor did it fall under the guidelines of fair use, I did retract my takedown request and the video has been restored. What I learned from this experience is that sometimes you just need to let it go. I will still continue to protect the content I create, but I will be sure to pick my battles more wisely in the future.
Lastly, I will be taking a brief break from YouTube and Social Media. Maybe a week or two. This situation has been really hard on me. Seeing the way those comments affected my wife was an emotional rollercoaster. I never wanted anyone to hurt her and in that regard, I failed her. Like I said before, I have dealt with trolls and cyber bullies many times before. I can handle it. But she couldn’t. And seeing her hurt by what they said to her broke my heart. I really need some time to heal from all this. My wife has had a rough life. She has lived her whole life with Muscular Dystrophy. A struggle in itself. But she was often bullied because her disability made her "different". In my eyes, she is beautiful and one of the most amazing people I have ever met. And I will do anything in my power to support and protect her. So I ask that you all please respect my privacy while I take some time to get past this whole situation.
I want to wrap this up with a few brief thought on cyber bullying. It’s wrong. Its unacceptable. In some places, its a crime and we need to stop ignoring it. It’s time to stop sweeping it under the rug. We have always been told time and time again to "ignore the trolls" or "just block them". But persistent cyber bullies don't quit that easily. They have multiple accounts to continue the assault and they often operate in groups. The ones who came at myself and my wife are part of a very large group, and the barrage of insults directed at us wasruthless and relentless. And while what they type on the computer is just words, words do hurt. They may not hurt me, but they certainly do hurt others. And they definitely hurt my wife. Cyber bullying has resulted in pain and suffering for many people on the internet. And in a few very unfortunate situations, it has even cost the victims their lives. Why do we ignore this? Why do we not demand change? It’s time to stop ignoring it and start fighting back. We need to demand that services like YouTube, Facebook, Twitter and others provide better tools and resources for dealing with cyber bullies. There are two reasons this continues to be a problem. Because we ignore it and because the services these cyber bullies use to commit these terrible acts also ignore it and make it difficult to report. Even if the abuse is reported, it is still ignored. This is unacceptable and we need to demand change.
In any case, I am thankful for those who support me and those who helped me to reconsider my decision to leave YouTube. I am not going anywhere. They did not win. They can kiss my ass. Your Geeky Tipster is here to stay.